Category Archives: Gay Ex-Husband

Divorce is Not Your Only Option

You don’t have to get divorced…even if he is gay. A Friend Set Me Straight …. So to Speak. We all need friends to keep us to keep it real, don’t we? I had a discussion with a friend lately … Continue reading

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What it Feels Like to Live “In the Closet” When You are the Straight Spouse?

Ever want to know what it is like to live “in the closet” when you are the straight spouse?  I will tell you.  It’s Hell. (This post deals with emotional abuse and gaslighting.  Trigger warning) I went into my marriage … Continue reading

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This is Not How I Wanted to Get “Famous”

In the summer of 2006, after a series of unfortunate events including a miscarriage, losing my job, and a freaking hailstorm, I decided to try out a new coping mechanism, baking.   I wasn’t ready emotionally or physically to try to … Continue reading

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No Sham Marriage

Why it so hard to believe that I was married for twelve years?  Is it because I looks so much younger?  God, I hope so.  Is it because twelve years of marriage did not produce a single alimony check or … Continue reading

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What Now? – What to do if you have discovered your spouse is gay and you think you might have to leave.

Let me be very clear. This is not legal advice. If you do feel an impending divorce, get a lawyer, get some cash, and get a friend or family member you can stay with in case you have to leave … Continue reading

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What Now? Credit Cards and Authorized Users

Get Your Own Credit Card in Your Name Getting your own credit card in your name is the best way to improve your credit score. If you are planning to get divorced, and if you don’t have your own card … Continue reading

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What Now? Banking Tips

More About Getting Your Own Bank Account and Following the Money Get your own bank account and your own online profile for your bank. My grandmother told me to do this when I first got married and I did not … Continue reading

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Testing the Waters or How a One Night Stand Helped Me Leave my Gay Husband

Why I am Writing This: Reader Feedback I am truly moved and humbled by my readers’ response. I had told you want to look for and a bit of what it looks on the other side of the closet. I’ve … Continue reading

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My Liberal Leanings Are Really Interfering with my Rights as a Woman Scorned

In light of the shootings in Orlando targeted at the LGBTQ community, I thought I should post the following: Let me be VERY clear. I am very PRO-LGBTQ community. I think everyone should live their truth. I know that what … Continue reading

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Not a Nympo or How a Closeted Gay Man Can Drive a Straight Girl Crazy

Lying is exhausting. Keeping up someone else’s lie you didn’t even know about can be down right destructive. I swear, on a stack of Bibles, I did not know my husband was gay. We started dating when I was twenty-one, … Continue reading

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